Ever since I finished school a few weeks ago, I’ve found that I have a ton of free time. Last summer, I pretty much went right into working and/or making myself busy somehow. This past week has been my first chance to just relax in what feels like forever. It’s weird what happens when the clutter in my head finally goes away. I’ve been left with my thoughts, with a new viewpoint of things. I’ve finally had time to think about my mental and physical health. I didn’t realize how little attention I paid to my mental health throughout the year.
There’s definitely a misunderstanding about epilepsy and mental health. It’s not just physical. There’s so much more – the uncertainty and the wondering when something is going to happen. But it’s not just about epilepsy.
I know you’ve probably heard this rant before, but mental health is way more important than people even realize. We are all fighting our own battles, so it’s so important to understand that you’re not the only one. It’s essential that we treat each other with as much respect as possible. But even more importantly than that, it’s crucial that we acknowledge that things aren’t always going to be perfect. There’s going to be days when life isn’t going the way you want it to. And, honestly, there’s going to be days when you just need to talk to someone. For some, those days are few and far between. For me, they are more often. There comes a point where it gets to be too much, and you can’t be a hero for too long.
I think it’s important for people to acknowledge that they may need help every once in a while. It’s okay to. It isn’t about being soft or about being weak. There is no shame in needing to call a friend or seek the help of a therapist. Mental health has a million different aspects and is different for everyone. Everyone’s life is completely different. There is no comparison between yours and theirs, because not only is their situation different, but they feel things differently. Maybe more deeply than you, maybe very little. That doesn’t really matter, though.
What matters is that you understand yourself and you understand what you need. Mental health is one of the most important aspects of who we are, and our minds need to be intact in order to accomplish our tasks and goals.
Without keeping your mental health in check, you can’t establish a healthy relationship with yourself or with other people. You deserve the time it takes to make sure you’re okay. Coping takes time and special attention to detail. Don’t rush around trying to get everything done. Don’t tell yourself that it’s not a big deal or that you’ll get over it. You’re not “too busy” or “don’t have time”. Take a second to consider what’s best for you and how to deal with what everyday life brings. Talk to someone if you need to. Don’t be ashamed to treat yourself right.